10 Biblical Things that Couples Must Doing to Avoid Fighting in Marriage

10 Biblical Things that Couples Must Doing to Avoid Fighting in Marriage

1.        Practicing Active Listening: Take the time to truly listen to your spouse's thoughts and feelings without interrupting or becoming defensive. "Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger." (James 1:19)

2.        Speaking Kindly and Respectfully: Use words that build each other up and show respect. "Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person." (Colossians 4:6)

3.        Choosing Your Battles Wisely: Not every disagreement requires a full-blown argument. Learn to discern between minor issues that can be let go and those that need deeper discussion. "Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out." (Proverbs 17:14)

4.        Practicing Forgiveness: Be quick to forgive one another and let go of past hurts. "Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you." (Colossians 3:13)

5.        Praying Together: Seek God's guidance and wisdom through prayer as a couple. "Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven." (Matthew 18:19)

6.        Serving Each Other: Put each other's needs before your own and serve with a selfless heart. "For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many." (Mark 10:45)

7.        Choosing Unity Over Winning: Avoid a mindset of competition and prioritize unity in your marriage. "Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace." (Ephesians 4:3)

8.        Taking Time Apart When Needed: Sometimes, a cooling-off period can be beneficial during heated discussions. "It is to one’s honor to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to quarrel." (Proverbs 20:3)

9.        Expressing Gratitude: Show appreciation for each other's efforts and express gratitude daily. "Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus." (1 Thessalonians 5:18)

10.      Keeping Christ at the Center: Make God the foundation of your marriage, seeking His guidance and wisdom in all things. "Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain." (Psalm 127:1)

By implementing these biblical principles into your marriage, you can create a loving and harmonious relationship, reducing the likelihood of unnecessary conflict and fostering a deeper connection with your spouse.

Prayer points against disunity in marriage

1.        Heavenly Father, we come before you to ask for unity in our marriage, that we may be of one heart and mind, in the name of Jesus.

2.        Lord, remove any spirit of discord, strife, or division from our relationship, and replace it with your peace and harmony, in the name of Jesus.

3.        Father, help us to communicate with love and understanding, that our words may bring healing and reconciliation, in the name of Jesus.

4.        Lord, grant us the grace to forgive one another readily and to extend your love and grace to each other, in the name of Jesus.

5.        Heavenly Father, protect our marriage from any external influences that seek to cause disunity, in the name of Jesus.

6.        Lord, help us to prioritize our relationship and make time for each other, strengthening the bond of love between us, in the name of Jesus.

7.        Father, we pray against any selfishness or pride that may lead to disunity in our marriage, and we ask for a spirit of humility and selflessness, in the name of Jesus.

8.        Lord, grant us wisdom in decision-making, that we may be in agreement and walk together in unity, in the name of Jesus.

9.        Heavenly Father, we rebuke any spirit of bitterness or resentment that may try to take root in our hearts, and we choose to forgive and let go, in the name of Jesus.

10.      Lord, help us to submit to one another in love, honoring and respecting each other's opinions and feelings, in the name of Jesus.

11.      Father, we pray against any misunderstandings or miscommunications and ask for clarity and understanding in our interactions, in the name of Jesus.

12.      Lord, give us a heart to serve and support one another, putting each other's needs before our own, in the name of Jesus.

13.      Heavenly Father, protect our marriage from the schemes of the enemy, who seeks to sow discord and disunity, in the name of Jesus.

14.      Lord, help us to be quick to reconcile and seek forgiveness when conflicts arise, in the name of Jesus.

15.      Father, we pray against any negative influences from past relationships or experiences that may affect our unity, in the name of Jesus.

16.      Lord, grant us the strength to resist temptations that may lead to disunity, and help us to stay committed to our marriage vows, in the name of Jesus.

17.      Heavenly Father, help us to be patient and understanding with each other's weaknesses and imperfections, in the name of Jesus.

18.      Lord, we pray against any divisive words or actions that may come from outside sources, and we ask for your protection over our marriage, in the name of Jesus.

19.      Father, fill our hearts with your love, that we may overflow with love and kindness towards one another, in the name of Jesus.

20.      Lord, we commit our marriage into your hands, asking for your guidance and grace to keep us united as one, in the name of Jesus. Amen.